Sad After the Holidays

Holi-Daze Q & A with Faydra Koenig, America’s Crisis Coach

We’ve had the wonderful opportunity to have members of our community pose questions to Faydra Koenig on our Facebook page and we wanted to share them here with you.

We hope you’ll benefit from what she has to say as much as we did.

Question:

After all the ‘highs’ of the busy-ness of the holiday season and all things we have to do and look forward to how do we combat the feeling of nothing to look forward to?

Faydra Answers:

Sometimes we go through seasons in our lives. The polar feelings are what create our ability to understand the opposite feeling.

Example: you can’t know cold without knowing hot. Sometimes the seasons of lowness and dis-ease are what make the moments of happiness more poignant.

Speaking from personal experience, having suffered some less than desirable holiday’s I learned lessons. I learned that Hallmark puts expectations on us about what a holiday is supposed to look like and it is a skewed, self-serving impression designed to sell cards and artifice.

I liken it to the fact that Christmas is epitomized by white winter drifts of snow and rolly-polly children who never sass their parents and always land on the good list.

What does that mean for people in Florida who can no sooner bundle up than their Australian friends who are actually celebrating summer where they live?

The point is, it’s perspective and none of us can allow our expectations and looking forward to be manipulated by marketers who are living vicariously through make believe.

Many of the people creating this false sense of togetherness go home to cold, empty houses and eat left over Chinese from styrofoam.

My “look forward to” has been as small as “sleeping in” and as big as “having my grown children all around the dinner table at one time” My “look forward to” has been as mean as “I can’t wait to never have to share my stash of candy again” all the way to “sacrificing the last piece of pizza” even though I had my eye on that slice.

While I don’t wish anyone pain, I do wish them a season or two or three of discomfort because it humbles, grows wisdom and creates a perspective that leaves a nicer carbon foot print on the path towards inner peace.

While I don’t wish anyone pain, I do wish them a season or two or three of discomfort because it humbles, grows wisdom and creates a perspective that leaves a nicer carbon foot print on the path towards inner peace.

Faydra has lovingly offered our community a deep discount on her Surviving the Holi-Daze Plan.  Remember to use coupon code ‘HHDECEMBER‘ when you check out to get $20 off the purchase price!

faydraFaydra Koenig, MA is a lover of iced tea, travel and snarky banter, Faydra is determined to shake people up about their mediocrity and stop living a half-life that is killing their spirit. Known in pop culture as America’s Crisis Coach™ Faydra shares stories of triumph and hope that make a lasting impact on people moving through their own crisis.

You can find out more about Faydra at doinglifewithfaydra.com and you can find her books at faydraonamazon.com. Catch her her podcast, Coming Out Of The Fire, on iTunes, too.